Entry: Momentary Lapse of Reason Saturday, March 24, 2007



Short story. Simple lesson.

I had a tiff with my friend the other day. Actually it was brewing from a while.

We were arguing quite randomly. True, we do that quite often... but this time I was getting angry. Very angry.
A few years ago, I had stopped talking to another of my very good friend because of a similar caustic argument. And I was just as angry then.

I was scared my anger was getting beyond my control and I told her as much. But she kept arguing on the rights and wrongs in the discussion. And perhaps was right about a lot of things.

I realized a very important thing at that moment.. There will be a lot of situations in your life when you are in an argument and you are sure that you are on the 'right' side. But in some such cases its not all that important to reason out an argument. It is more important to ensure that you dont lose that person for some stupid argument which really did not deserve to be adjudged.

So, try killing your ego for just a li'l while and stop reasoning. And smile :).

[Okay now for the actual gyaan part.  :)]

Sometimes getting a smile back on somebody's face is more important... than winning an argument. Specially when those people are important.
Because losing that argument may not hurt you for long. But losing those people might quite certainly do.
   6 comments

void
August 9, 2007   12:40 PM PDT
 
@ Lakshmi

Thanks Gudia for making me famous :).
Lakshmi
July 9, 2007   02:30 AM PDT
 
Hi Void
Hey you are a famous writer.. Why bcoz I said so.. Well the reason... coz I wasnt getting sleep and I thought, I should read your blog and I was sure you must have added a few more since I last read... Whoa! I was right... well this one really touched me coz its so true.. I loose my cool easily andesp with ppl close to me... And certainly there is a lapse of reasoning... when I loose anger.. And your lines of wisdom are so very true... Will try to control
Keep Writing
....
void
March 31, 2007   09:10 PM PDT
 
@Garima

You're right. The coin definitely has an other side. And I shouldn't have got angry. But being an absolutely normal human being I also tend to lose patience at times. And I know my friend adores me as well, may not be as much I do, but still she does. I only wish that she could tell me, atleast at times, that she cares. What inhibits friends from expressing their affection is beyond my comprehension :)

@ Smitapec
I couldn't understand too much of what you wrote here. All I can make out is that you are not in the best frame of your mind these days. I dont know the reason. But I can tell you that life is not all that bad. Let this phase pass. If I can see it right.. life is extremely bright in front of you and waiting with open arms :)

@ Arny chak

Hey Arnie!! so very glad to see you commenting my blog :).. And you bet I am gonna watch the movie now :).. How is Abha?
arnychak
March 27, 2007   03:37 PM PDT
 
I strongly recommend watching the movie:

Mon oncle d'Amérique

It's a tad boring because of its documentary style of narration, but it says a lot about why we do what we do, and in the end helps us to improve through a better understanding of ourselves.
Smitapec
March 26, 2007   01:27 PM PDT
 
Well, arguments discussions and fights keep on happening.. true, u shld not lose a friend coz of them but keep on trying to improve the situation.. don't know if everything in the world has a definite solution and can be resolved.. doens't seem like it at times.. the phrase which we so commonly use to make ourselves calm "sab theek ho jayega" doesn't usually work in reality but that is what we always strive for..
I wish the world was a simpler place to live in!!
Garima
March 25, 2007   09:03 PM PDT
 
Its so difficult to comment when u know the person, the blog is pointing at ...... I think I agree the gyaan totally and I can also spot the reason for ur argument with ur so called 'considered best Friend' and it was just that u got angry coz u urself agree that u guys have such random arguments very often and if I can say that right its almost every hour ....... so watz the point in getting angry and the bigger GYAN here is that never get angry.
The other facto is that this is ur side of short story simple lesson of wat happened the other day and ur friend might not write a blogo but still have story n lesson of wat happened the other day........ try findin out that n I am sure u both wud be smiling then :)

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